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    Would (and Should) You Dump Someone Because of Money Problems?

    1. Fabi I

      February 14th, 2017 at 8:45 am

      As you already mentioned, it really depends on the partner. Of course, it isn’t easy to talk about money but if your other half is willing to work on their financial situation you should help them.
      But if they are lying to you I would dump my partner. Because this behavior has a real impact on me and my financial situation.
      As always, communication is key 🙂

    2. Stefanie

      February 15th, 2017 at 9:16 pm

      Yes. It amazes me how many couple know communication is key, but don’t apply it to their $!

    3. Rachel @ The Latte Budget

      February 14th, 2017 at 2:08 pm

      Thanks for writing about this topic! I don’t think it gets talked about enough. I personally think it comes down to someone’s control over their debt. My fiance and I both have student loan debt, but we are very much in control of it and are actively paying it off. But if I found out he had $30,000 of credit card debt…ouch. I wouldn’t want to put myself in a situation where I am responsible for fixing someone’s finances when they clearly have no interest in fixing it themselves. Very situational, but I’m glad you brought it up!

    4. Stefanie

      February 15th, 2017 at 9:17 pm

      Exactly, it’s not necessarily about the numbers, so much as it is their response to the numbers.

    5. Kim

      February 16th, 2017 at 4:14 pm

      When my now husband and I first got together, he knew absolutely nothing about money. I came from a family with a parent that always bailed out another parent from money issues, and I refused to be in the same situation. My husband came into the relationship $15,000 in debt and was spending money we didn’t have. One day I gave him an ultimatum, stop spending so much money or I walk. He cleaned his act right up! Now, he budgets better than I do! Lol. He still spends money, but we have a fund set up just for him so he can enjoy it without feeling guilty. Sometimes you have to give them a chance like I did, but sometimes you may just have to kick them to the curb!

    6. Stefanie

      September 26th, 2017 at 8:06 am

      Thanks for sharing your story Kim. I’m sure there are many people in similar situations and it’s good to hear that your husband was able to make that switch.

    7. Ashish

      September 26th, 2017 at 7:54 am

      No, not at all. what i think if someone stays with you only for money., they are just like parasites and we must take necessary actions to avoid such relations before we get into trouble. We all agree that money has solutions to many problems but at the same time money can’t solve all problems of life. We must be practical while dealing with money matters.

      Really liked your thoughts and specially the way you communicated it to us.

      Thanks! http://www.thanksmoney.com

    8. Church

      January 21st, 2018 at 1:33 pm

      Sex, money and bathroom schedules. All topics that two people should be on the same with as they move forward.

      This post is great because love can be blinding.

      Thanks for sharing.

    9. Stefanie

      January 21st, 2018 at 3:10 pm

      Hahaha, you’re so right. I often wish one bedrooms in NYC came with two bathrooms 🙂

    10. Brian

      October 1st, 2018 at 10:56 am

      I recently discovered my girlfriend of 3 years has 250k in student loan debt that she hasn’t made payments on in years due to her low income and her idea to get out of debt is to get another loan to become a commercial pilot. I feel like shit right now for leaving her but I don’t see how we could co-exist in marriage knowing the long road ahead for her just to get out of debt. It’s not the life I had been planning for us.

    11. Stefanie

      October 2nd, 2018 at 7:42 am

      I’m sorry. That’s such a tough situation. Sometimes it can help to point our partners to resources/alternatives to see how they’ll respond. But if ultimately, the behavior doesn’t change, it’s probably indicative of what’s to come in the future too :/

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