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    Why I’m Not Having Bridesmaids at My Wedding

    1. Jenna

      June 17th, 2019 at 1:05 am

      I completely agree with you about not having bridesmaids and I’m glad to hear that I’m not alone in thinking this! After being a bridesmaid in a couple of weddings now, I have felt the financial pressure. The dress, the hair, manicures and pedicures, the make-up, shoes, hotel rooms, etc. The cost really does add up. My best friend is trying to save up to start a family and I don’t want to take anything away from that. Deciding not to have a bridal party definitely takes the pressure off of your friends and lets them just be able to enjoy the day with you. My friend can wear a dress from her closet, do her own hair and make-up, and just show up to have a good time. And if for any reason I do decide to have a bridal party, it will be a small one and I intend to pay for everything.

    2. Melissa

      June 24th, 2019 at 3:36 pm

      Wow! my head also almost exploded from that advice.
      Yikes!
      It’s great you are forging a new path. We also didn’t have a bridal party but my sister and my husbands brother stood next to us at our wedding.

      I suggested some dresses, but made no requirement.
      We didn’t have a theme or anything. I thought that it would have been a great idea to just have everyone wear some sort of floral dress and then just take a picture with all the women who attended. I never did make the suggestion but still seems like a nice way to get everyone in a theme.

    3. Stefanie

      June 29th, 2019 at 1:02 pm

      That’s a great idea too. I think that weddings need to get back to the root of what they are about – celebrating the love of two wonderful people.

    4. Celina

      July 1st, 2019 at 6:59 pm

      I think you have the right idea! A few years ago I was a bridesmaid at a destination wedding. Even though I was honored to be in my friend’s wedding there was a lot of pressure to be supportive and participate in everything. I ended up paying for my dress, flight, hotel, time off of work, a bridal shower gift, wedding gift and more. It was fun but I spent a lot more than I wanted to.

    5. Sandra from Toronto

      July 18th, 2019 at 8:14 pm

      Great post! Chaque’un a son gout (to each his own), but massive wedding parties always baffled me! We did a sort of in-between solution. When I got married, I asked my best friend to be my maid of honour and my husband got his bestie to be his best man. They got to pick their outfits, since there was no need to be matchy match. My friend bought a lovely sleeveless heavy silk camisole and a swirly gold skirt, bought on deep discount after the holidays for a total of about $125. Beautiful and elegant. My hubby and I told our other good friends of our decision to have just one person stand up with each of us at the wedding, and I think our pals were all sort of relieved. Nice small wedding party! I also was lucky enough to have 2 good seamstresses in my family, so I bought beautiful silk fabric and had a simple pure silk long wedding dress made for $500. We just celebrated our 22nd anniversary. I always feel a bit concerned for brides who go overboard with the massive wedding party, the $4000 designer wedding dress, and the $10,000 diamond they cant afford. Unless you can afford it all, maybe you’ve lost the plot? My husband and I had this philosophy: 1. It’s about the marriage, not the wedding; 2. The party/reception should be fun for your guests, not just a showpiece for you; and 3. It isn’t (or doesn’t need to be) the last great party you’ll ever host! So calm down. Really!

    6. Melissa Hunter

      July 19th, 2019 at 10:56 am

      This is not a new idea. I got married in 1988. I had one maid of honour, no bridesmaids. She wore a dress that she had purchased for another wedding, fit our colours so who cares? Shoes were a non-issue. We did our own makeup and nails, the hair was a minimal cost. She was my witness, and the cost to her was minimal. We got married in the evening, so no need for a sit down dinner. Rented a community hall and decorated it ourselves. DJ was a wedding gift, midnight supper was a wedding gift, photography was a wedding gift. Made use of an offer from a bridal fair for flowers. We spent maybe $1,000 total on our wedding and it was a lot of fun.

    7. Lila

      July 19th, 2019 at 8:29 pm

      You know Stefanie, you are so refreshing from everyone else out there in the PF world. No one should have to go into debt for a friend’s wedding or to just get married themselves. I love how caring you are about your loved ones. I think it’s sweet you are thinking of your future with your fiance and how you returned your engagement ring. You really are thinking more than just one special day. =)

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